Can Marriage be Saved?
Have you ever asked yourself if your marriage can be saved?
If you have, you’re in good company because marriage can sometimes be overwhelming. Asking this question in February may seem out of place due to the recent Valentine’s Day, but the truth is that building a good marriage is difficult.
Marriage is one of the most significant relationships we can experience in life. And if you are married and in ministry, it should always be the most important ministry. Marriage is a lifelong commitment between two people who vow to love and cherish each other for better or worse, in sickness and health, until death do them part.
Do any of these words sound familiar?
Sadly, it is no secret that many marriages struggle and often end in divorce. But it doesn’t have to be this way. I believe that with the help of God, marriages can not only be restored, but they can become stronger and even thrive. So, if you are struggling in your marriage, here are five steps (+ 1) that I use when helping a couple get back on track with their marriage.
The first step in saving a marriage is recognizing that it needs help. Many couples ignore the signs of trouble and hope that things will get better on their own. It’s not a good sign when you don’t talk much with your spouse, when there is a lack of intimacy and trust, and when you have different goals. The longer a couple waits to address their problems, the harder it becomes to fix them. That’s why it’s essential to be honest with yourself and your spouse about your issues. Acknowledge the problem and commit to working together to overcome it.
The second step is seeking help from the right sources. If you are a Christian, God is your ultimate source of healing and restoration. Seek God’s guidance and wisdom through prayer and reading the Bible, but also seek support from your community of faith. Don’t ask advice from your best friend who is on their 3rd marriage. Also, seek help from marriage and family professionals who can help resolve your issues quickly. If you still have problems after counseling from your local church, seek paid counseling; it will be the best investment ever made. These individuals have experience in dealing with marital issues.
The third step in saving a marriage is a willingness to change. It’s easy to blame our spouse for the problems in our marriage and expect them to be the ones to change. However, lasting change begins with us. We must be willing to look honestly at ourselves and identify areas where we need to grow and improve. For example, we focus on building trust, modifying our communication approach, and practicing patience.
Forgiveness is the fourth step in saving a marriage. We are all imperfect and make mistakes. Continuing to harbor past hurts and resentments only serves to worsen our relationship. Forgiveness brings healing. When we forgive our spouse, we release the burden of bitterness and resentment, creating space for love and healing to grow. Most of the time, forgiveness is for us.
Finally, it’s essential to be committed to the process of saving your marriage. It’s not an easy journey, and there will be setbacks along the way. However, marriages can be saved and restored with a steadfast commitment to working together and seeking God’s guidance.
So can marriage be saved?
Absolutely! God can save your marriage.
Marriage is hard work, but it’s also the best work.
With God’s help, anything is possible. God created the marriage relationship and cares more about your marriage than you do.
The key is acknowledging the problem, seeking help from the right sources, being willing to change, practicing forgiveness, and being committed to the process. While the road may be difficult at times, don’t give up because the reward of a strong, loving, and lasting marriage is well worth the effort.
For those who are still reading, let me give you a (+1), the sixth step.
And that is this: after the Lord saves your marriage, get involved in your local church, connect with couples who value their family and consistently invest in your marriage by reading relationship books, attending marriage seminars, enrolling in marriage video courses, etc. Consider my books and courses here.
It’s important to remember that marriage is a journey, not a destination. Marriage is also not for lazy people. It requires effort, patience, and an ongoing promise to grow and thrive.
I welcome your feedback.
Nick I. Gonzalez
Marriage, Family, and Thriving Christian Living